Beautifully Imperfect
Have you ever noticed your mood change in a moment, from calm and open to a harsher more critical space? Perhaps self comparison might just be the culprit. Theodore Roosevelt once said "Comparison is the thief of joy", and I couldn’t agree more.
Only you have walked your journey, and me mine. We all have our strengths and our very own weaknesses. We all have our ups and our downs. We all have our successes and our failures. We are all beautifully imperfect. It is one thing we share with all other humans.
It's just that we have a continuous full view of our own weaknesses, failings and imperfections, contrasted often with an intermittent spotlight on the strengths ambitions, achievements of others. Comparing yourself is unjust and inaccurate in these moments, as it compares the unique panorama view of our own lives with a single pixel version of another’s. It can only feed inadequacy, insignificance and fear, or perhaps a false feeling of security.
Only you have walked your journey, with your relationship history, life experience and unique personality. Finding a path to becoming aware of how you feel, taking time to understand why it might be there, validates your emotional experiences. it gives you permission to feel. This takes you closer to accepting those spaces in your lives, so that you can understand what you really need and offer the care required in those moments. And so begins a more healthy way of responding to yourself, shifting away from negative defaults like comparison.
After all, perfection doesn't bring joy. Acceptance does. And it can start with you today.
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